1. unfortunately it isn't happening in engineering and I should've been smart enough to see that. As an older student, struggled through depression (suicide attempts) and feelings of worthlessness and still do, I will say it doesn't get easier. My love for lifting/MMA is one of the things that keeps me going. Your GPA may not be steller, but I have heard of students who have been able to achieve high quality jobs. As a reminder that good can come of a marriage ending, we asked our readers on Facebook to share how they feel about the idea that divorce is a failure-- and to share the reasons their marriages were of value, even if they didn't last. All I have to show for myself is that I know computer programming and I make a living for myself (~$1k - 2k) as a computer programmer, but I have no qualifications, and I'm unhappy with my job. I think the most significant thing about failure is that we usually think of it as something that happens to us from the outside. But yeah that's my rant. I can get a job of course. Any advice? My life problems extend way beyond engineering but my life drastically went to shit … Press J to jump to the feed. You have so much potential. FOCUS ON THIS. Mostly my own fault for having severe ongoing depression and anxiety for the first two years and switching around too much. It was the most important thing I have done on my leadership journey. You've already encountered great success! Share on Twitter. Literally no one cares and I don't think life will ever amount to much. That combined with the fact I have no real life outside my room and am facially ugly even after losing weight and getting in shape makes me feel like absolute shit relative to the people around me. Hi there Nurse Beth, I am a Registered Nurse since August last year. Thanks. People in law, business and medicine making $200-300k, successful lives, adoration and what not. My CPA uncle gets $150k in bonuse. You feel like a failure for not knowing your immediate next step after graduation. I had almost got the job four times before my actual first job. first semester. Press J to jump to the feed. The only good things driving me at this point are the facts that I was able to secure my first co-op for this upcoming term and doing well this past semester gives me some vague hope of recovering my GPA in the three remaining semesters and get into something where I work like a dog 70-90 hours a week to distract me from life problems and make alot of money. I'm 21. Don’t Let a Failure Break You . That's the thing though. But that doesn’t work, because the feeling follows me into bed, and actually intensifies until finally I have to get out of bed to try to escape it. Feeling like a constant failure can negatively affect your health and well-being. I failed miserably in engineering. I know I have the grit and the determination especially when my mind is clear to absolutely do well. The problem is we think letting go means defeat and then feel like a failure when in some cases it actually means freedom and victory. My life problems extend way beyond engineering but my life drastically went to shit after starting uni so it's definitely interconnected. Life and success isn't just about money. Working 70-90 hours of week is inconceivable. It won't follow you around like a criminal record. Or we are fired from the job we have. In hindsight, there are a few things I probably should have done differently... By Rachel Cameron November 23, 2020. This is an unpopular opinion here, but I invested in Chegg and it has helped me a lot in the long run. Ive kind of given up on others and work to make me happy. I kept thinkingnking to myself what if I had done something else. I feel like a failure : (I’m in my first semester of EE and I got a D in Calc 1 and I feel awful about it. If I could afford a therapist I'd probably do that instead. I'm not a dumbass. But our third born introduced a few new quirks and personality traits we hadn’t seen before. So, what, this is just a reason to stagnate at the age of probably <25 years old and just say "this is the cards I was dealt?" I definitely could have gotten the high premed GPA, the high MCAT score, the whatever else you need. Having said that however having either of those is better then being alone. At this point I just feel written off from society. It just isn't fair. Your school likely has free counseling for its students. I have utilized alot of the resources available to me and they've all helped me tremendously. You're giving up too soon. I am an introvert and I am not sociable, I dont have friends and find it very difficult to make one. 1. Congratulations to James Ivey, who was awarded the Virginia Commonwealth University's Respiratory Drug Delivery Peter R. Byron Graduate Student Award at the 2018 RDD conference in Tucson, Arizona. Instead what's seeming more likely is that not only will I most likely end up with a below mediocre life earning $65-95k. The award recognizes excellence of research and presentation at the RDD … I guess it helped give prespective on some points. I'm not even a high school graduate, I dropped out after year 10. Cookies help us deliver our Services. I downloaded headspace and did practice it every now and then. Once you let it in, it can be very hard to shift away from negative feelings and self-doubt. You did well last semester, and you have a co-op. What if I had done medicine instead like my brother who makes well into six figures. Failure Lyrics: I don't get what I want / I get what I need / Every single day Im heading off to my dream / And I get everything / That I damn well please / I don't give a damn if you all listenin You can get through this, in a few years some of these problems won’t even matter to you. Exactly. Yeah I agree with you on that. I struggle to keep up with the commitment of friendship. Working at the limits of your field can be frustrating. More posts from the EngineeringStudents community, Continue browsing in r/EngineeringStudents. Id be an inventor or and id have more opportunity to innovate or something that would set me apart. Check out r/personalfinance and r/financialindependence. But it’s not. At this point I just feel written off from society. There is an app called "Headspace" where you can practice some sessions for free. I had been average student till 12th. Second year BioE major here and i’m struggling with the general courses for engineering at my top 10 school. Robyn Braun - 17 May 2018 . Press question mark to learn the rest of the keyboard shortcuts. I KNOW I COULD'VE. I feel like I shouldn’t be an engineer at all if I couldn’t pass a basic math class. Even then, some companies don't look at it. Even those not in those fields at least have some sort of connection to people and society around them. Thanks I appreciate your positive response. You commented on my post quite awhile ago in summer that helped me by a mile, I wish I could return the advice to you. Sounds like you didn't have control over your thoughts and were spiraling. But circumstances and my permanent GPA will always make it seem that way. Usually, they offer mock interviews and other helpful tools. I went into engineering thinking it would enhance my life. Not now not ever cause I don't think alot of the things that can be self improved can fix permenant problems. Yeah, society sucks, but if you want to be a part you have to pay in. Archived. Currently feeling quite fatigued and unmotivated. Success can feel like failure. 83 COMMENTS. Even those not in those fields at least have some sort of connection to people and society around them. No. Good point. I didnt have the social skills going in to uni to make friends and that combined with slight ADHD and a speech impediment means that as of right now I talk to exactly 0 of the people I met in uni. Pick up a hobby or three. It can make me feel like crying. Seven years ago, my boss got everyone to complete a DiSC profile. GPA only matters for your first job really. You're not going to grow alone, in a dark room. on social skills, and it takes time. Try talking with classmates and taking advantage of your college's respective career center. I went into engineering thinking it would enhance my life. Finally, 65k-95k is not something most plumbers make outside of school. Everyone else is just playing catch up to the big dogs. I've basically pissed away the last 25 years of my life. That's plenty of money to be happy, and it's better than mediocre. “Do I feel like a failure as a mom? 1. This is a place for engineering students of any discipline to discuss study methods, get homework help, get job search advice, and find a compassionate ear when you get a 40% on your midterm after studying all night. If I haven't figured out how to make friends yet there's something wrong with me which makes people feel uncomfortable around me. What do you do when you feel like a failure or when you have missed an opportunity or a goal? Would you date a woman who had all the qualities you have? It's their job. Just wanted to comment that I have felt those feelings of low and understand your state of mind. It's not a walk in the park. User account menu. Most of the time, there are, at least, two or more people involved. Don't short change yourself. But circumstances and my permanent GPA will always make it seem that way. That doesn't mean it's the end of the world. I'm 25 and I feel like a failure. It like from when we were born the seed is planted in us to have the strong desire to own.